Two contrasts in communications: you can either Race with Grace or Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew. The latter is a chapter in a book I receively purchased called Robert Greene’s The 48 Laws of Power.
I had to buy this book to see what I’d been missing all these years. The book teaches you how to cheat, dissemble, feign, fight and advance your cause in the modern world. Needless to say, there was not much to learn here about communication. There’s a chapter on “Concealing your Intentions” as a strategy, but most of the chapters dwell on manipulation and scheming.
On the other hand, one of the people I admire most in communications is retiring this year, David Milliken a Senior Vice-President from CNW. Quite the opposite, David showed me how to get what you want, not in a Machiavellian way, but by being honest, humble, customer-serving, responsive, generous, and respectful. If there was one word to describe David, it would be Grace. He has a stature and confidence of a leader, but has the worldliness and humility to treat CEOs and administrative assistants with equal respect. People work with him because they want to work with him, not because they have to. He solves problems, doesn’t create them. He listens and finds ways to mediate so that everyone wins.
So thanks for showing me David, that power without grace, isn’t power at all. Good communications will lead to respect, respect leads to trust.With the trust of your employees or clients you can do anything.